It always seems like I’m falling short in some area of my life.
Now that my love category is at a 5 out of 5 stars… I have 0 out of 5 in the finance area. Even though my family is still struggling to accept him as the final end game of my dating life, he has bailed me out the past few weeks and has been happy to do it.
Every time I get a boyfriend I basically give them all my money even though I can barely afford my own life. The mistake I made in February to live with my stranger boyfriend set me so far back financially that it’s hard for me to stay positive. Despite my signed promissory note, I haven’t seen a dime.
All the money I saved living rent-free at my sister’s house for six months was gone in an instant.
Before that, I shut off all my credit cards in an effort to pay off all my debt. I was in a good place to do it then, and I didn’t want to keep using them prolonging the cycle. I’ve had no money in my checking account before, but I always had those credit cards to survive for gas and food.
I had to scurry for change to put gas in my car so I could make it home from work and I literally haven’t had money to eat.
I tried to hide my struggles from those I love, including my boyfriend, because I’m just embarrassed about it. My sister is angry with me for throwing my money away when I got the apartment with my ex. She knew it wasn’t going to last between us, and she tried to warn me… but I just didn’t want to listen.
After my account was overdrawn and checking account was negative $190 – it became harder for me to breathe.
My boyfriend caught on to how bad off I was and jumped right up to help. He filled my gas tank, gave me money for food, and wired some money in my checking account so my car insurance payment didn’t bounce.
Keep in mind, he’s not made of money either – but the past couple of weeks he was better off than me. I hated taking from him and I hated feeling dependent on someone else.
“We’re a team – my money is your money and if I can help you in any way I will.”
It’s amazing that I’ve never actually had this treatment before. I was always scratching their back and they were never reciprocating.
As I slowly crawl back to my end goal of financial freedom – I keep watching “The Secret” on repeat, listening to binaural beats and hypnosis, praying to the Gods I don’t really believe in, researching quantum physics, writing down my goals and drawing up my vision boards.
If I brought a love like this in my life, and if he keeps me this happy – it’s only a matter of time until everything falls into place.